How to Date in a Post-Dating World
by Diane Mapes

Dating is no picnic these days. Manners are missing, expectations are out of control, and nobody knows who’s supposed to pay for dinner (or slap out the condoms).  Until now.  Diane Mapes’ hands-on, irreverent guide for the modern, mangled single is filled with advice from today’s savvy singles as well as experts on everything from sex to serial killers to style. Written for men and women, gay and straight, old and young and everything in between, How to Date in a Post-Dating World is a friendly roadmap to help singles navigate a world where a 100 years of conflicting customs, shifting social mores, and consumer-crazed society have made it easier for people to get their own reality TV show than find someone they like.

Fabulously witty …
— Kirkus Reviews

A fabulous compendium.
— Seattle Metropolitan Magazine

A witty yet wise guide to the frenetic, confounding world of dating today, online and off.
— Seattle Post-Intelligencer

Clever, fresh, and totally hilarious. If you’re single, you need this book!
— Suzanne Schlosberg, author of The Curse of the Singles Table


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single-state-of-the-union-cover-small2Single State of the Union: Single Women Speak Out on Life, Love, and the Pursuit of Happiness
Edited by Diane Mapes

 Are single women happy individualists? Neurotic man hunters? Crazed cat ladies? Are they confused, or content? Bitter, or better off? No one seems to know. The popular media give us shoe shopaholics, ditzy desperados, and wannabe brides forever making cow eyes at The Bachelor. But what do single women have to say about their own lives?

With sass, humor, and style, Single State of the Union paints a provocative, playful, and complex portrait of today’s single woman with contributions by Margaret Cho, Chelsea Handler, Susan Jane Gilman, Sasha Cagen, Jane Ganahl, Laurie Notaro and many more.

Looking for a collection of essays that portrays single women as individuals whose lives extend well beyond and Manolo Blahniks? Welcome to Single State of the Union!

A collection of smart and funny stories by single and formerly single writers.
— Bust Magazine

A crackerjack collection of essays by single women who write with utter frankness about the joys and challenges of singlehood, with emphasis on its considerable joys.
— Seattle Post-Intelligencer

Essential reading for anyone inclined to think outside the hope chest.
— Playgirl


What’s the story?

Meet Diane Mapes, your friendly neighborhood freelance writer. My beats include health (with an emphasis on cancer prevention, treatment and survivorship) and lifestyle and singles issues, but I also love writing about history, natural history, pop culture and TV/film. On this site, you'll find links to stories, praise for my writing (*blush*) and the odd bit of social commentary about the single life. Also here, a few shameless plugs for my books (hint: see links below). Have fun, glad you're here and hope to hear from you soon.

Oh! And if you're looking for my breast cancer blog, go to Double_Whammied

Check out my books!

How to Date in a Post-Dating World A dating manual for the modern, mangled single.

Single State of the Union
Single women speak out on life, love and the pursuit of happiness.

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