Do you ever get ‘scared single’?

scared-singleA buddy and I went to see “Psycho” the other night at the Seattle Symphony. It was fabulous seeing the Hitchcock classic in all its gory on the big screen. Ditto for hearing Bernard Herrmann’s brilliant score being performed live.

The only problem was coming home after the movie. Alone. In the dark. In the middle of a slashing rainstorm.

Jumping out of the cab, I flew up the stairs to my apartment, locked the doors, and desperately surfed the channels looking for a mindless comedy. But it was the day before Halloween and the TV was practically squirting blood.

I finally settled on the campy 1958 science fiction thriller, The Blob (starring Steve McQueen!). But even a handful of wacky teenagers trying to defeat a monster that looked like it belonged inside a Hostess cherry pie couldn’t keep me from thinking about Norman Bates careening around a corner with a butcher knife and a bad wig. Such is the power of being “scared single.” 

It’s happened to me before, most recently when I stayed up until 3 in the morning watching some bad Ewan McGregor film about a serial killer who steals women’s eyes (click here for the Single Shot column I wrote about the whole ordeal).

I use a lot of self-talk (and a little bit of closet-checking) to get through my scared single moments. How about you?  Do you keep a baseball bat under the bed, a can of Mace in your makeup bag?  Or have you given up the ghost entirely and gotten “scared married”? 


5 Responses to “Do you ever get ‘scared single’?”

  1. 1 Jenn November 1, 2009 at 9:51 pm

    Ironically, I just had a conversation with my boyfriend about the fact that I hate scary movies (he loves thrillers and horror films), partly because I tend to wake up in the middle of the night with images from such movies in my head and then can’t get back to sleep. I told him that I *might* be persuaded to watch an occasional scary movie with him if we ever get to the point of sleeping together for several consecutive nights but until then, I’ll stick with comedies and action.

    • 2 singleshot1 November 2, 2009 at 12:32 pm

      Thanks for your comment, Jenn! I can watch *some* scary stuff, but I definitely need to chase it with a comedy. Also, I won’t go down the graphic violence path at all. No interest in it for one thing (suspense yes; bloody intestines, not so much). Mainly, I watch movies for story and plot and characters and all that good writerly stuff (which is why I’m such a Hitchcock fan). I’m not so sure they even bother with any of that in the splatter films.

  2. 3 Single in Seattle November 4, 2009 at 1:23 am

    Scary movies make me want to be with someone, not be single.

  3. 4 Singletude: A Positive Blog for Singles November 12, 2009 at 10:44 pm

    One of my few complaints about being single is that it leaves me more vulnerable to crime. And I’m a person who gets VERY easily freaked out. (I once called the police because my cat knocked something over, and I thought there was someone in the house!) I don’t watch horror at all and very few thrillers but never alone at night. I’ve been known to sleep with my cell on the pillow, a golf club by the bedside, and a chair wedged up against the door.

    Yeah. Murder scares me.

  4. 5 kim February 21, 2010 at 1:31 pm

    I was single for a very long time. I had a few frightening single moments but usually I had a best buddy girlfriend in a nearby apartment that I could huddle up with.

    The thing that *scared me single* was dating 15+ years of real life psychopaths. If I can take *scared me single* literally. 😉 I finally discovered the red flags but that took me many years of agonizing personal moments. I would rather have had a big green monster under my bed than the one that was lying next to me.

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